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September 27, 2013

September 27, 2013

September 27, 2013

"Restoring Relationships: Confession"

"First get rid of the log from your own eye; then perhaps you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.”Matthew 7: 5 NLT

The fourth biblical step towards restoring a relationship is to confess your part of the conflict.

If you’re serious about restoring a relationship, you have to begin by admitting your own mistakes of sin. Jesus said it’s the way to see things more clearly.

We all have blind spots. You may need to ask a third party to help you evaluate your own actions before meeting with the person with whom you have a conflict. Make sure you ask someone who is unbiased, rather than on your side.

In addition, the best person to ask about your part of the problem is God. Ask Him, “Am I the problem? Am I being unrealistic, insensitive or too sensitive?” 1 John 1: 8 says, “If we claim that we’re free of sin, we’re only fooling ourselves.”

The neat thing about confession is that it is a powerful tool for reconciliation. Often the way we handle a conflict creates a bigger hurt than the original problem itself.

When you begin by humbly admitting your own mistakes, it diffuses the other person’s anger and disarms their attack. They were probably expecting you to be defensive and instead you are conciliatory.

Confession means that you don’t make excuses or shift the blame. You honestly own up to any part you have played in the conflict.

Accept responsibility for your mistakes and ask for forgiveness.

Peace in the Lord,

Pastor Don