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September 24, 2013

September 24, 2013

"Restoring Relationships: Talk to God"

“What causes hurts and quarrels among you?...You want something but don’t get it…You do not have, because you do not ask God.”James 4: 1 – 2 NIV

The first biblical step towards restoring a relationship is to talk to God before talking to the person.

Discuss the problem with God. If you’ll pray about the conflict first, instead of gossiping to a friend, you’ll often discover one of two things: either God will change your heart or the other person's heart.

All relationships would go more smoothly if you just prayed more about them. David used prayer to ventilate vertically. Tell God your frustrations. Cry out to Him.

He’s never surprised or upset by your anger, hurt, insecurity or any other emotion so tell Him exactly how you feel. Don’t hold back. He’s heard it all!

Do you know where most conflict comes from? It is routed in unmet needs. Some of these needs can only be met by God. We sometimes forget that very important truth and rely on others.

When you expect anyone – a friend, a spouse, another pastor or family member – to meet a need that only God can fulfill, you are setting yourself up for disappointment and bitterness. No one can meet all of your needs except God.

The apostle James noted that many of our conflicts are caused by our lack of prayer. We want things, we don’t get them. The reason we don’t get them is because we don’t talk to God. We expect them to come from somebody else.

So instead of looking to God, we look to others to make us happy. Then we get angry when they fail us. God says, “Why don’t you come to me first?”

Peace in the Lord,

Pastor Don