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September 22, 2014

September 22, 2014

"Focus on Reconciliation, Not Resolution"

“There is one God and one mediator between God and mankind, the man Jesus Christ.”  1 Timothy 2: 5 NIV

When you have a conflict in your life, focus on reconciliation, not resolution.  There’s a big difference between those.  Reconciliation is reestablishing the relationship; resolution is resolving the issue.

There may be times when you are able to solve an issue, but you will never resolve every issue with everyone.  No one person ever agrees with every person on everything so you’re never going to get resolution on all issues.

Can you have a loving relationship without agreeing on everything?  Of course you can.  People can be friends even though they don’t agree on everything.  What makes it possible?  If you learn to disagree without being disagreeable.  That’s called wisdom.

To disagree without being disagreeable calls on you to have unity without uniformity; walk hand-in-hand without having to see eye-to-eye.  So the focus becomes not what you agree upon but the relationship you establish.  There are just some things that aren’t worth arguing about.

You are most like Jesus Christ when you are reconciling people.  That’s exactly what Jesus came to do!  He is the great reconciler.  God sent Him to reconcile us because we are in conflict with God.

It’s always more rewarding to resolve the conflict than to dissolve the relationship.  It’s not easier, but it’s more rewarding.  When you disagree with someone and walk away you don’t get any character growth or development.

But here’s the important step.  You won’t have peace with other people until you have peace with God.  A lot of people miss that point; they don’t believe it.  The starting point is peace in your heart by letting the Prince of Peace inside it.

Ask God to help you be at peace with Him.  That means you are in a relationship with Him.  When you do that you can be in a relationship with others, too.

Peace in the Lord,

Pastor Don