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October 2, 2013

October 2, 2013

"Restoring Relationships: Reconciliation, not Resolution"

“Work hard at living in peace with others.” 1 Peter 3: 11 NLT

The seventh biblical step towards restoring a relationship is to emphasize reconciliation, not resolution.

It’s pretty unrealistic to expect that everyone will always agree about everything all the time. Reconciliation focuses on the relationship while resolution focuses on the problem.

When we focus on reconciliation, the problem loses significance and often become irrelevant. We may not be able to resolve every issue but we can reestablish a relationship.

Christians often have legitimate, honest disagreements and differing opinions, but we can disagree without being disagreeable. There is a difference between unity and uniformity. We may not always see eye-to-eye but we can walk hand-in-hand.

Now, this doesn’t mean you give up on finding a solution. You may need to continue discussing and even debating an issue. What’s important is your attitude. You do it in the spirit of harmony.

Who do you need to restore a relationship with? Take a moment to talk to God about that person, then pick up the phone and begin the process. Remember the phone is just there to get you in touch with them, not to talk over the issue.

The seven steps we’ve learned about restoring relationships are simple but they are not easy. It takes a lot of effort to restore a relationship. That’s why Peter urged, “Work hard at living in peace with others.” (1 Peter 3: 11 NLT)

It's easier to sustain a relationship rather than having to restore it. The important thing is that when you work for peace, you’re doing what God would do. That’s why God calls peacemakers His children.

Peace in the Lord,

Pastor Don