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October 17, 2016

October 17, 2016

"Grief is a Healthy,
Helpful Choice"


“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens … a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.”  Ecclesiastes 3: 1, 4 NIV


Life’s tough.  Would you agree with that?  Since Adam and Eve sinned, we live in a broken world.  Nothing works perfectly.  Most of us have the aches and pains in our bodies and relationships to prove that.  So there are lots of issues we have to deal with.  

There are a couple of truths that will give you a better perspective as you face the inevitable losses in your life.  They will also help you rise above them.

1.  God doesn’t expect you to be happy all the time. 

There is some crazy myth going around that when you’re a Christian you are always happy, you always have a smile on your face.  I don’t know where it came from but it really needs to go away.

In fact, our verse for today tells us that there is a time for everything both “a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.”  Grief is one of the gifts God has given you to deal with those tough times.  

2.  Grief is essential to your health. 

If you never grieve it means one of three things:  you’re out of touch with reality, you’re out of touch with your own emotions or you don’t love.  When you love and see sad things, which effect  you they make you want to grieve.  

Grief is a painful emotion.  But it’s a healthy emotion that helps you get the sad out.  It’s really meant as a gift from God and a tool He gives you through the transitions of life.  

You can even grieve things that happened a long time ago, if you didn’t grieve them then.   David warns us in Psalm 32: 3 that keeping grief in can hurt: “When I kept things to myself, I felt weak deep inside me.  I moaned all day.”  

The bad things that happen to you aren’t your choice.  Grieving them is.  If you deny that it’s just going to hurt you at another point.  When you grieve things you let go of the losses so that you can move on and receive God’s blessings.  

Peace in the Lord,


Pastor Don