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May 26, 2017

May 26, 2017

"Marriage Reveals What's Unhealed"


“In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than flattery.”  Proverbs 28: 23 NLT


Every once in a while someone writes Dear Abby to say “I’ve got the love of my life but here are the problems we’re having.  Should I continue this relationship?”  Abby always responds, “If you are wondering if you should continue a relationship, you likely shouldn’t.”

Sometimes people confess that their fear is that they won’t have anybody to go out with if they end the relationship.  Believe me, a bad marriage is a million times worse than not having anyone to go out with on Friday night.  

The longer you’re in an unhealthy dating relationship, the more difficult it is going to be to get out of it.  Remember what we talked about yesterday?  It’s awful easy to fall in love with the idea of being in love.  

Regardless of the emotional state of your partner, your emotional health begins with a personal relationship with Jesus.  You need to get spiritually connected to God.  

If you are emotionally hurting right now, it’s not the time to start dating someone who is emotionally hurting.  It will feel good but starting from that place is a tough place to build a relationship.  Wait until you have healed and then begin dating or at least be in the healing process.  

Sometimes people share with me that they thought marriage would change their life.  What they didn’t realize is that they were taking all the baggage from their previous life into that marriage.  Marriage does not create problems.  It reveals them.  

The more you deal with the issues before you marry, the healthier you can be before you enter that marriage.  Then you can develop the deep soul intimacy that is personal, spiritual, even sexual.  It is the oneness that comes from being unified by a relationship to God.

Peace in the Lord,


Pastor Don  P.S.:  The devotion will be on vacation on Monday in honor of Memorial Day.  Have a blessed one!  

Pastor Don