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May 25, 2017

May 25, 2017

"Emotional Health Creates
Relational Wealth"

“The righteous choose their friends carefully.”  Proverbs 12: 26a NIV

Waiting for the perfect husband or wife?  I have bad news for you.  It’s going to be a long wait.  You see, we’re all broken.  We all need a Savior.  

God loves you.  God loves me.  But you need to understand that anybody you marry will be broken too.  That’s not a commentary on a poor choice.  It’s a reality of the world we live in.  It’s awful hard to create healthy, meaningful relationships with people who are not emotionally healthy.  

Here are some areas you really want to be concerned about:

Look for someone who isn’t nursing uncontrolled anger – uncontrolled anger reveals deep insecurity and low self-worth.  

Look for someone who isn’t stuck in an addiction – please note that word stuck.  When people love the addiction more than they can love you, it’s likely you can’t bond with them.  

Look for someone who isn’t harboring bitterness – bitterness is the poison of unforgiveness.  It eats the person who is bitter and all those around them.  

Look for someone who isn’t selfish or greedy – they cause conflict in marriage.  Kind and generous people bring peace.  

Look for someone who always tells the truth – love is based on trust; trust is based on truth.  If you don’t tell the truth, I can’t trust you.

Does this mean that marriages that have these defects can’t work?  No, God is a God of redemption and He can redeem any relationship.  Following Him is the key.

Peace in the Lord,

Pastor Don