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May 11, 2017

May 11, 2017

"How to Help Your Family Grow"


“Since I … have washed your feet, you are to wash each other’s feet.  I have given you an example to follow.  Do as I have done for you.” John 13: 14 - 15 NLT


If one of the marks of an awesome family is that we help each other to grow, how do we do that?  I want to share  two ways that help people and two ways that don’t.  These apply to every area of life.

Help each other grow:  

1.  Through example - Remember when Jesus washed the His disciples feet?  He said, “I’m giving you an example.”  Your kids don’t need a sermon from you.  They need you to live as you want them to live.

2.  Through conversations – In most families, most conversations are about the schedule:  eat at this time; leave at that time.  Critical conversations need to be about real issues.  You know one of the best places to have those?  Riding in the car with your kids, so turn off the radio and electronics and talk.

Now let me tell you two ways that don’t help people grow:

1.  Through criticism – Nagging, condemning, criticizing and complaining are totally ineffective to get people to change.  Why?  Because when you criticize you focus on what you don’t want rather than what you want.  The odd thing is people often do the opposite.  Remember what happens when people see the sign, “Wet Paint!”  

2.  Through comparing – We’re all unique.  When we compare we’re saying we think one is better than another.  In fact, comparing, especially when you’re a parent, is lethal to the relationships of your children and you.  

Peace in the Lord,


Pastor Don