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June 29, 2017

June 29, 2017

"Forgiveness Versus
Restoration of Trust"

“Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written:  ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord.”  Romans 12: 19 NIV


Who has the bigger guns to repay people for their sins, you or God?  I always figured it’s God.  I don’t feel I can execute justice because I am not very just.  
God is, so I want to leave it to Him.  

Here’s where there is some confusion.  Some people think forgiveness means they have to trust that person instantly.  Forgiveness is instantaneous; trust is not.  Trust is rebuilt in relationships and it takes time to earn it back.  

That misunderstanding is often what stops some people from forgiving.  They think it means they have to immediately trust someone again.  God does want you to forgive people, but that doesn’t mean trust is restored.  

Sometimes people think it will return to what it had been.  It’s ok to say to them that you can’t go back.  When trust has been broken, the whole relationship may be lost.  

Forgiveness and restoration of relationships are two different areas.  Forgiveness is the first part and it can happen very quickly.  That’s exactly what God wants.  He wants you to take the burden off that person.  Restoration of relationship is an entirely different issue.  

To have restoration takes repentance, restitution and a rebuilding of trust.  That can take a long time; it may never happen at all.  

I hope this helps anyone who is stuck right now.   Also, remember this.  How do you release your hurt?  You leave it to God.  

Peace in the Lord,


Pastor Don