August 4, 2017
"Small, Thoughtful Gestures
Make a Big Difference"
“Encourage those who are timid. Take tender care of those who are weak. Be patient with everyone.” 1 Thessalonians 5: 14b NLT
When you’re ministering to a friend who is dying, along with your physical presence, offer physical assistance. So what does that mean? It means do what you can, but also watch for the small, practical ways you can help.
People who are dying usually don’t feel good or are in pain. By attending to small things you can make a difference. Be considerate. Do they want a light on or off, ice chips, a back rub? You show love by offering practical assistance to relieve pain and discomfort.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions but recognize that sometimes they don’t want to answer. You can also make suggestions. When people are in pain it’s hard to be happy. They may be cranky. Remember they need compassion. Cut them some slack and extend kindness and patience to them.
Why is this so important? Because another one of the fears that people have when they are dying is losing control. They may have given up many things already. They’re fearful of what they might yet have to give up.
By being aware of their needs and giving them choices in how those needs are addressed you help to comfort them. By giving them a choice, you help restore their sense of control. Sometimes the smallest gesture can make a big difference. Your presence is part of that ministry to them, so is your compassion through practical assistance.
Peace in the Lord,
Posted on Fri, August 4, 2017
by Marie Blair