August 3, 2017
"Why Do You Think It's So Difficult
to Talk About Death?"
“No one can live forever; all will die. No one can escape the power of the grave.” Psalm 89: 48 NLT
Before you can help someone facing death, you’ve got to deal with your own fears. Death exposes our fears. When we feel exposed we typically hide. We’ve been hiding our fears since Adam and Eve hid from God.
What are the fears you have related to people who are dying? Perhaps you’re afraid you’ll say the wrong thing to them. Maybe you think you’ll make things worse or mess up. Whatever that fear, it’s keeping you from doing anything.
Having been with the dying, I can tell you there’s nothing to be afraid of. Most people know they’re dying. Just being there will make a difference.
On the other hand, I have not have had many “Hallmark” movie moments when people die. They don’t sit up spectacularly, say “I love you” and then fall back onto the bed. There are very few grand statements or bold gestures.
Death is really quite ordinary. Often times, people just lie there, and then as time goes on their breathing becomes less secure. It’s not spooky and it’s not weird. One moment they’re there with you and, the next, they’re not.
So the only mistake you might make is not being there because you are afraid. Once you face your fears about death, you’ll be able to help your friend face their own fears when the time comes.
Peace in the Lord,
Posted on Thu, August 3, 2017
by Marie Blair